If by chance you meet an attractive woman on Orchard Road or at Cold Storage supermarket.. (or wherever!) and you manage to get her number, well done! The next step is executing a successful first call. If you call too soon, you will come across as desperate, but if you wait too long, she would have lost interest in you.

As a rule of thumb, never call her the same day that you met her. Give her a chance to think about you first. If she starts thinking - "why hasn't he called me yet?!" it's at this point that your call will have the most favourable impact. The time each woman enters this phase of anticipation varies and depends on how busy she is. But I wouldn't recommend waiting longer than 3 days to call her. She may have given up on you, or worse still, already got the attention of another man. This is very likely if she is attractive, because there are thousands of possibilities out there for her.

 

When you call her for the first time, you should try your best to sound friendly and yet confident. Don't talk for longer than a few minutes. This is not the time for getting to know her. Say hello, introduce yourself as the guy she met in line at the supermarket (or wherever) yesterday and you can politely ask how her day was. Just remember that the whole point of this call is to meet her again. So go ahead and pop the question, "would you like to meet for coffee tomorrow?"

 

If you get her voice mail, don't just hang up like a coward. Just say something simple like, " Hi (insert her name), this is (your name). We met last night at 313 Somerset. I just called to say hi and to ask if you would like to meet again? Get back to me. Bye"

 

If you don't feel confident about it, then rehearse! You can do this with a friend or by yourself... you can even write down what you want to say so you don't draw a blank once she picks up the phone. To do anything worthwhile means you must make an effort, hence the need for rehearsal if you think the girl is worth your while. In the movie, the actors sound, act and look so natural and spontaneous because they have rehearsed their lines like mad.

 

 

Lastly, be considerate when it comes to calling her for the first time. Don't call late at night, do ask if it's a good time to speak to her before you rattle on, do be sober, remember to introduce yourself clearly (don't leave her guessing) and if you can incorporate humour into the conversation, you simply can't fail!

 

What's your strategy when it comes to calling women? Have you ever bombed on the first phone call and ruined your chances?