Friday, March 30, 2007

Are Singaporean Women Like This, Really?

There have been enough rumours going on about what Singaporean women want in their potential partners. Are these myths or facts?

Let’s look at them and you tell me at the end if you are still dying to meet, date, love and marry a true-blue Singapore girl, shall we?

1. Ticket to wealth

Come on, you know as well as I do that you find this type of girls everywhere in the world. Aren’t there an equal number of men who are after rich women’s wealth and fortune too?

So what makes our home-grown girls stand out, or stick out, then?

A woman looks for financial stability. But somewhere down the road, it has been either wrongly communicated to the men, or they had wrongly assumed that the women are only after riches.

In fact, what she wants is a man who is financially sound, debt-free preferably, and has a stable income or steady flow of revenue to sustain his own lifestyle.

If a man can’t even ensure his own stomach is filled, what sort of assurance is he giving to any potential partner to start a family?

Of course, a well-designed and executed financial plan that includes funds for starting a family, investment, retirement, further education etc makes him a much better candidate than one who is still living off his paycheque month to month.

Now, who doesn’t get attracted to men like that? As a guy, I’m certain even you will feel secure if you know your elder brother has made plans for you.

2. We aren’t iron-deficient!

When was the last time you saw a really gorgeous lady striding beside a man who, well, under the most lax standards of being average-looking, will at most score an “okay looking” grade?

Women, or rather certain breed of women may drool when faced with hunky biceps, triceps, quadriceps or all the available muscles in the world, coupled with a boyish grin and chiselled features.

But, admiration simply stops there! That’s right. Women merely admire men who spend half of their time in the gym working out to look that delicious.

What matters is not the six-pack abs. What matters is the clean smell of personal hygiene, the strong arms that hints of his reliability and the well-ironed Polo Tee he puts on that says he does bother to have something decent besides the working shirts and ties he is mandated to wear by his company’s policy.

We really would love to have a man who spots a slightly bulging tummy whom we can cuddle up to in our spare time, than to have a taut body whom we don’t get to see at all during weekends as he pumps iron, with, well, other men.  Or worse, other women! 

3. Minister of Education?

Sadly to say, there is only one person who holds this position in this little island of ours. That means, there is not enough to go around for half of Singapore’s population of women to find a mate!

Rather than saying women want to date a PhD holder, it will be fitter to say they enjoy the company of men who are knowledgeable and worldly.

A well-travelled, well-read and well-mannered man scores big time than one who is only well-studied and, that’s it!

The reason why the education level has been used to gauge a man’s eligibility is probably because, with all things constant, this is the easiest and fastest way to measure a man’s intelligence and upbringing.

A well-educated man can’t deviate too far from the assumption that he has some ideas on how to behave in a social situation, can analyse a problem faster, have a more acute understanding, better communication skills (though we know this is very much related to one’s personality and character) and has a higher probability of scoring a better career prospect.

If your education level is not as high as the lady, impress your date with what you have in your brains and your heart, not what you have stored in the certificate folder.

I’m sure these aren’t the only misconstrued and misunderstood facts about the Singapore women today. But those mentioned above top the list, so they come under the pen’s scrutiny first.

I may write more in the later articles to clear the air between our opposite genders. So guys, please stay tuned.

Meanwhile, you can start giving me your feedback on these points so that we can have a more meaningful and interactive column?

You want this to benefit you as much as you can, wouldn’t you? So, let’s have some fun knowing more of the opposite sex and demystify what LOVE really is!