Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Don’t Be Shy Geek Guy

You Know… I think Hollywood may been on to something great with recognising the pull of the Geek Guy.

I realise I have to clear one major misconception though. Geek is not a physical attribute. Being a Geek doesn’t equal being “four-eyed” etc.

In reality, Geeks come in all shapes, sizes and colour. Tall and blonde, short and brown, Black and fat, etc.

It’s important to note that just because some one wears glasses does not make him a geek. Believe me, some really stupid men wear spectacles too. They’re not geeks, they’re just losers. What I find attractive in a geek is not glasses per say… but the intelligence and character.

Reasons I Would date a Geek

12. Geeks are horny. It’s very likely that you will always be sexy to them. You don’t have to be obsessed about looking less than a supermodel. Treat your geek well and that is a great aphrodisiac.

11. They’re not bums, they will have financial planning. You should never underestimate the security and stability from good financial planning. Though it’s important too that you and your geek realise that the most important things in the world and in a relationship rarely have $$$ values behind them

10. Intelligent
I think I mentioned before that when I was in university, I had a crush on at least 3 of my philosophy professors! Intelligence is a major turn on.

Don’t dismiss a smart man as a boring man, for it’s that same intelligence that created computers, television, blogs, flight… and found cures for diseases..

I also remember, when I was growing up, I was always attracted to pilots, but now I think- why lust after the man who is paid to fly the plane (by the way, you know mokeys were trained to fly the space shuttle right?) when you can lust after the men who create it. (No.. I am not talking about the Wright brothers here… I mean the people who are the brains of the aerospace industry today)

9. Computer Savvy
In this tech-savvy world, it’s great to have a boyfriend who is a whiz with your PC, Lap top or any other gadget.

I used to date someone who ooked up and configured everything in the house to run through the projector (we’re talking, PC, Laptop, Tv, cable,Dvd player, etc)… his housemate (some french guy) was surprised and mentioned “Oh my god.. are you some sort of geek?” He said it as if geek were a bad word. But I actually found John’s abilities in that respect very very attractive.

8. Your Parents will love him
Your parents will see a stable and educated man who is responsible and a potential breadwinner. Geek guys are generally mild mannered, polite and gentlemanly.

7. Style
Ok, the Arty type geek has his own sense of style. He makes wearing glasses look cool. All the other types of geeks are not likely to have much style. But this is a good thing! He may not have a great sense of style, but it is very likely because he was never bothered to get one. Meaning… he will let you dress him!!!

6. Quirky
All geeks have their own little quirks which make them unique. A certain grin, a sound they make, the way they look when they’re focused on work, etc. If you don’t find that endearing immediately, then you will grow to love it over time.

5. On top of things
If a Geek guy says he will call you, he will. The Math geek is especially good at remembering dates so he won’t miss a birthday or anniversary. Geeks are also dedicated and have a sense of focus. Have you ever seen a Geek get an idea or inspiration to get something done? Chances are, he will keep at it and get it done.
When a geek has a girlfriend, he will aim to please her.

4. Quiet Lifestyle
This is great if you’re at an age where you’re settling down and realise that a night in can be just as great as a night out. The Geek guy will also be a great reading, library, home cooking, cuddling, listening companion.

3. His friends aren’t jerks
The greatest thing about a geek’s buddy is that you can feel secure when he’s out with him. He is likely to be a good influence.

2. No worries
Most geek guys frequent bars as often as I frequent the dentist!

Most girls would agree that a lot of their relationship problems centre around alcohol, or too many drunken nights out. Geek guys, fortunately, don’t think getting “wasted” is the point of drinking.

If you have a party to go to, you can dress and bring your geek. Although he may not want to go to every outing with you, you won’t have to worry much about what he’s up to when he’s not with you. Do not underestimate how great it is to have that peace of mind where you don’t have to check up on him.

1. They actually give a damn about you
They are nice guys. And nice guys don’t beat or lie or cheat on you.
You don’t have to worry about how you look around them, thoughif you’re hot, that’s a plus.

Hurry! Girls, go grab a geek. When word gets around, everybody will want one. And don’t be shy, Geek Guy! It’s your turn to shine! (You’ll never know when the Die-Hard-Yippie-Kai-Yay-m*thF*kr type hero will come back into trend!)

Sunday, July 25, 2010

Revenge of The Geeks

I just got back from watching The Sorcerer’s Apprentice.

And you know what struck me? Gone are the days where the leading men and heroes in the movies were manly men who are rough and tough (usually with ripped bodies)… like Stallone, Swazernegger (however you spell that), Clint Eastwood, Harison Ford....

In tonights show, it was geeky Jay Baruchel who played David… the successor of Merlin, and back in the 90s and earlier, there’s no way he would get a leading role unless it’s a movie like oh, let’s say, The Return of Barney the Purple DInosaur & Friends… but low and behold… in the year 2010, Jay Baruchel gets to be the hero that saves the world and gets the pretty girl too!  Woot!

It’s a revolution… the revenge of the Geeks… there’s been a whole sleu of them.. Shia LaBeouf, Toby Maguire, Daniel Radcliffe! They’re getting all the big roles.

What do you think brought about this change??

(I’m not complaining.... I’m fond of geek men… but would be nice to see a nice pec or flexed bicep bigger than my own, every now and then)

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Embarrassing Ways To Die

I just read a news article someone sent me about British nanny Nicola Paginton who died using sex toy while watching porn. Apparently, her heightened state of arousal caused her heart to give out. (Maybe the church was on to something when they said that masturbation was evil!)

First thought that came to my mind was; what the hell kind of sex toy gaver her that… and what video was she watching!?  (So I can avoid it lah… why? What were YOU thinking?)

And secondly… what an awful way to die… Yeah I guess dying while in orgasm is a lot more appealing than like drowning (By the way La petite mort, French for “the little death”, is a metaphor for orgasm).... but can you imagine… being found dead in bed - naked from the waist down - as the porn movie played on your laptop? Oh the shameeeeee

I for one, am the kind who always wears nice underwear because you never know when you’d get into an emergency situation. And I would like to imagine myself one day… dying with dignity, and not have paramedics pry my 5-speed vibrator from my rigor mortis inflicted hands.

Here are my top 5 most embarrasing ways to die (which also proves to us that the Grim Reaper has a cruel sense humour!)

5. Being mauled to death by the tiger whose enclosure you jumped into (remember this one???)

4. Trying to pull a stunt from JackAss.

3. With something up your rectum.

2. Death by Viagra. Especially something like still having an erection after five hours, and then you contemplate the greater shame… going to a hospital for help or dying with a massive hard on in bed.

1. Like British Nanny Nicola Paginton

Saturday, July 17, 2010

Tranny Spotting

I’ve dug this out from my old writing archives… I think it will be useful for boys who sometimes find the girls at Changi… or at some clubs… a little.. erm… suspicious..

Sex change operations are freaking amazing now. And a lot of them look so much better than us real women!

Miriam Rivera (Big Brother Australia, now TV star). Gorgeous to most people (though I do find her face manly). But if a real woman actually stood beside her, you’d start to be suspicious because Miriam is much Larger. (Which is also why I suspect Mariah Carey is really a bloke)

But in Asia where people are smaller built and men (korean, japanese, chinese, etc) tend to be smaller built and have softer features (not so chunky)… it’s even harder to tell a transgender or transvestite from a real woman.

First, let’s clarify some things:
Transvestite is a male who dresses as a female.
She-male is a man who has taken hormones and maybe even had his adam’s apple “shaved” and had facial injection but still has his penis and balls.
Transsexual is a male who has gone through the complete operation to become a physical woman.
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Not that I have anything against transvestites, she-males or transsexuals. But if you’re a straight man, I’m guessing you wouldn’t want to ignorantly hook up with any of the three? (unless of course that is what you want, then by all means go ahead)

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Apart from the Adams apple, deep voice, balls and penis or facial hair… all of which sex change operations and hormone pills can fix.... how can u tell if it’s a man or woman?

Holly Jean’s 5 Ways to Spot A Tranny
1. The Physical
Shoulders: Women’s shoulders-to-hips ratio is typically more in proportion to one another. Men have narrower hips.
Size: of hands and feet ( For Asian women- bigger than a US 9/UK7 is questionable)
Jaw line: About mid-point in a male jawbone is a sudden change of angle.
On a woman the jawbone is more or less a softer curve from under the ear to the chin.

However, some traits that we think of as gender-specific, aren’t necessarily so. Some women have big shoulders, some women are tall, some men are short… so let’s move on to number 2..

2. The Arm Test
Here’s my arm on top and a man’s arm at the bottom of the pic. When you straighten your arm, men will notice that it won’t go beyond the 180 degree point, it’ll be just straight. But women will find that their arms bend a little extra backwards.

3. The Center of Gravity Test

Follow instructions in my video. If they fall forward, it’s a man. If they keep their balance, it’s a woman.

This is because women have a lower center of gravity. We’ve got short torsos, long legs and wide hips. Men, on the other hand, have long torsos with bigger chest cavity (bigger ribcage) so a lot of weight is in their chests. So when he tries to lean forward to touch the paper, he can’t do it because it brings his center of mass too far forward in front of his knees and he falls over.

4. The Evidence from the Past
Ask to see some childhood pics of her. This is one of the most discreet ways to find out, without looking like you SUSPECT SHE’S A MAN. But if she doesn’t show you any… hmmm… (try the tests above!)

5. The Crotch

If you’re a brave boy… and end up in bed together before you can ascertain whether she’s a true female or not… then look at her crotch. A post surgery crotch/vagina is higher than a real woman’s.

Do share if you have any other “tests” or any experience regarding this subject. Would be interesting to hear what you have to say.

Friday, July 16, 2010

Grr! Dating!

I am getting awfully tired of dating… It’s like I have to weed through hundreds of jerks just to get to the few good men left out there in the field.

If you’re a single man reading this (no… I am not fishing for dates here)… I am going to tell you about the various type of flawed men out there in the dating zone. Sorry if flawed sounds judgemental… (especially since I myself, apart from having a nice ass, am far from perfect ........ KIDDING). Well anyway, boys, men, whoever is reading this, my advice is: DON’T BE ANY OF THESE SINGLE GUYS.

1. Desperate Danny
He’s a sensitive guy, comfortable with admitting that he’s looking to settle down and have kids. But Desperate Danny gives women the feeling that they just happen to be his next chance to have someone, anyone. He’ll tell you all his fantasies, faults and plans for a future with you in the first date, because he’s not wasting any time. It’s not about you, it’s about him and how desperate he is to grow old with someone, anyone, please marry me now. Flattering? No. Creepy? Yes, very.

2. Peter Past
This is the guy who was undeniably a stud in his college/university days, and no matter how fat, bald, or sun damaged he’s become over the past couple of decades, he still sees himself as the irresistibly handsome jock who is God’s gift to all women. So full of himself. He’s the man who will talk about his past marathons, and other sporting achivements as if it were just yesterday (literally), and is oblivious to a fat gut spilling over his pants. It’s ok to be out of shape, really, I am not here to judge you, but don’t be blind when you look at yourself in the mirror.

3. Mama’s Boy Martin
I haven’t been dating teenagers (obviously)… so it is extremely shocking when I hear things from dates about things like- “My mom would kill me if I dated a girl with a tattoo”.  Excuse me, but can you think of any other more hellish scenarios here?? Even if we became a couple, I’d never hear the end of “that isn’t how Mommy makes it”.

4. Clifford Cling-On
All he can talk about is his ex. If he’s still clinging to a past relationship, he’s not ready to be in one with you. (p/s up to recently, I’ve been so guilty of this! But not anymore, phew!)

5. Sleazy Sam
This is the classless guy who jumps straight to treating you like he hired you for the night. He’s all over you and acting like he’s doing you a big favor by groping and mauling you from the second you meet him.

6. Obsessed Oliver
Ok, so he’s good looking… but a man who is obsessed with how good he looks is a major turn off. Don’t just talk about yourself and how good you look. Have more substance, otherwise you’ll be the least attractive man in the room.

7. Chip On His Shoulder, Chip
This is the guy who assumes all women are only out to get whatever she can from him. If you say you love travel, he assumes what you’re really saying is you expect him take you on expensive trips through Europe. If you say you want to go for a drink, he assumes you are all about partying and late night’s out. If you have a nice clothes, he labels you “high-maintenance” and “materialistic”, then insists he can’t maintain someone like that (hello??? No one asked you to in the first place).

Sunday, July 11, 2010

Women Test Men

I wrote this list of tests women spring on men secretly… and I think that perhaps it would be useful if I shared it with you guys here.

Whether it’s the first date or you’ve been dating for some weeks and want to go exclusive, Your woman will test you.

You see, in order to know vital information from a man… we cannot simply ask him. We won’t know if he’s lying and telling us what we want to hear.... And besides, sometimes it’s just too early to ask certain questions.

So here are some tests women the world over use to figure out if the guy is a keeper…

The Waitress Test

It’s been said that when dating, the way an individual treats a waitress or other some other neutral person such as the taxi driver or maid… is the way they will treat his woman in six months. Trust me, it’s a shit feeling being duped during the “honeymoon phase” and 6 months later you’re sat there in tears on numerous nights wondering - What did I get myself into?

If men are cheap with tips - you’ll never receive anything once the honeymoon is over. Though in Singapore, tipping isn’t the norm so it’s hard to use this test. But if they whine, complain, criticize, or are rude (!!!) to the waitress/driver/sales assistant etc - that’s an indication of how they’ll treat their GF six months (or once they can show their true self).

In addition, a mentally healthy person is consistent, they treat almost all people the same way all the time. So if you treat the pretty waitress better than the ugly one or the male one… then that’s an indication that trouble will crop up later on.

The Flirt Test

When you’re at a party, we will look at how you socialise. We watch you while you’re solo. If you are just having conversation, fantastic. If we see you touching and complimenting and eyes roving all over the place ... that’s a FAIL.

I was at a little event with a date, and there were quite a few girls around. And he did strike up conversations with them. He’s just a naturally social person, but just as I was about to bail on this one, I realised that everytime he was talking to someone else, he’d take a long lingering look back at me. Made me feel as if yeah he’s got to be polite and talk to other people but i never felt that his attention was not on me. And if while we were talking, if someone interupted us, to ask if we wanted a drink or whatever, he was slow to pull his gaze off me. So… women really have to use discretion and gut feeling when testing…

There is another way to carry out the flirt test. Sometimes, women do the flirting instead! They want to see if men will let them get away with it. If he doesn’t do anything, maybe he doesn’t have confidence and leadership. If he goes Nuts… then FAIL as well!

The Fight Test

When you have your first fight, women will remember it to the end of time. We can tell just about everything we need to know about a person by the way they fight. You simply do not know someone until you’ve had a fight with them. How violent? rational? crazy? If he is rational, sticks to the point and actually listens and gives you a chance to explain, then PASS.... But if he starts attacking verbally or physically, then he’s not a man, he’s a beast.

The Game Test (this one is what my Hair Stylist told me a while ago)

Is he a humble winner?
And more importantly is he a good loser? How a man responds to defeat tells you how mature he is.

The Good-Looking Friend Test

If your woman introduces you to a good looking girl friend. BE CAREFUL it’s a test! Don’t let her catch you flirting or checking her out.

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Ok.. now I’m expecting some people to complain and say that it’s wrong to test people and judge them. Blah Blah…

But the reality of the situation is-
Women test men.

I’m just being honest about it.
SO now you know how we test you men… get your game on and stop failing!

Wednesday, July 07, 2010

Mr World 2010 - Good Choice!

The Mr World pageant 2010 just ended a while ago…

And after watching the men’s introduction videos, I think that it’s so clear why Mr Ireland won and Mr Czech Republic came in a close second.

1. He has nice eyes. 2. He speaks well. 3. Educated.  4. has bigger aspirations than just being a model/actor.  5. Has character, witty. 6. You don’t feel like slapping his face

Here’s some the men I didn’t like…

Holland may have played a good game in last night’s world cup semi finals… but Mr Netherlands… well, isn’t he full of himself?! His ambition is to be a “well known actor”?? Give me a break.

Ok.. he doesn’t look and act in a way that would make people hate him… granted.. but he’s not good looking to me… I’ve been out with good looking Japanese men, and I’ve been out with men who have a nice designer stuble… but this contestant is none of those. Looks like a smoker too. ( not that I have anything against smokers… just saying he looks like one)

Mr India is the epitome of Bollywood.. talk about looking cliche… plus he reminds me of an ex BF when I was in uni.

Mr Greece, please don’t stretch my tank top ok.

And then… there is our Singaporean delegate.. ah… well… can shake hands with Ris Low. Unfortunately his video has been removed from youtube!

Saturday, July 03, 2010

How to Tell if a Woman is Crazy???

I know I get both men and women reading my blog here.. but since my NSportal bog has a mainly young male readership, this post today is especially for them

Let’s face it, this country is full of nutters. Life can be a living hell if your girlfriend is a crazy one and yet you’re in too deep and cannot just leave her. So as a favour to all of you good men out there, here are the 10 warning signs to help prevent you from falling in love with a Crazy Woman.

1. She ONLY has guy friends
This means humans from her own sex don’t want to be around her. The only guys who are her friends are those that want an opportunity to score and get in her pants. It’s not normal for a girl to have no female friends.. she’s going to latch on to you and demand every single waking minute of your attention.

2. She’s recently had a break up
Less than a month since she split with her ex? Be careful. Emotions haven’t had a chance to stabilise yet. If you start something with her, be prepared to hear her talk about her ex non-stop… and also be prepared to be a possible rebound.

3. She has cheated in the past
It’s a woman’s nature to be fleeting and fickle with food, fashion and other stuff. But if she has cheated in the past, then it’s likely for her to repeat this. She is easily swayed, loyalty is nothing to her. Remember, women cheat just as much as men. They only hide it better.

4. She wears only pink
Now don’t get me wrong, I love pink. But a girl who will only dress like a walking talking barbie doll is nuts. She will make you listen to her giddy gossip, put pink stuff in your home and car, and she will make you watch re-runs of GLEE!

5. She says “I’m not crazy.”
This is just a smokescreen! She’s keeping all her crazy in a bottle, and she’ll only let it out little by little. She will lure you and trap you, until a time where perhaps she has moved in to your home. The she puts your cat in the blender while you’re at work.

Monday, June 28, 2010

Things Guys Should Know (To Make Dating Easier for Everyone)

I’m going to make an attempt here… to tell men what women wished they could just tell them. I’m trying to make dating easier for everone!

When dating...

1. Texting a girl twice a week does not count as staying in contact. It’s meaningless and a waste of everyone’s time. Let go.

2. Be considerate. High heels really hurt.

3.  If a girl has pretty eyes, she has probably heard men tell her that five thousand times. It’s fine to repeat the compliment, but you’ll make a much bigger impression if you find something else to compliment.

4. Don’t stare at our chests. If we catch you glancing at our chest when you’re just in front of us, we’ll think you’re rude and have no willpower. You can look, but from a distance (that way it’s not obvious what you’re looking at!).

5. Don’t be a momma’s boy! Set boundaries and work on establishing some independence. You and your mom can have a loving relationship without you still suckling at her tit.

6. Don’t make empty promises in an attempt to impress us. Don’t say “Let’s fly to Hong Kong next month.” Sure, it sounds cool and impressive to talk a big game, but come next month, you won’t remember saying anything about Hong Kong. And we will forever think you’re full of shit.

7. Taking us for granted is probably the worst thing you could do after cheating and lying.

8. As far as having children goes, you have the luxury of time. Appreciate it and don’t waste ours.

9. Booty Call Texts are weak. We can tell, even if you’re trying to be discreet, that all you’re really after is sex.

10. We’d rather you didn’t say, “I’ll call you” if you really meant “goodbye.” That will make you a big fat jerk. Just leave after a date and don’t say anything, we’ll get the message.

What do you think girls, have I missed anything out?

Thursday, June 24, 2010

Lifestyle Fatigue!

I am very exhausted… I am sat here, it’s almost midnight, I have article deadlines to meet, blog posts to write, photos to sort through, I haven’t had dinner, my dog is trying to get my attention by humping away at my left ankle.. but I don’t even have the energy to nudge her off me.

As much as I love my lifestyle… I have Lifestyle Induced Fatigue. There’s too many things that I want to do, and too little days in my life to do them! Plus I am squeezing in some serious dating too!

Take today for example.. I had a photo shoot for TheStyleHunter in the morning and this evening, I had a fitting at iROO which is a Taiwanese high street fashion label (just opened their flagship store at Marina Bay Sands!)


Trying on outfit after outfit...loove their gowns.. while it can be exciting… becomes tiring once you hit the two hour mark. Will be modelling their outfits in town this Saturday (!). I have another shoot on Sunday too. I am in the midst of designing a dress for ClubCouture ( my very own dress to add to their next collection!!!). Plus I lost a bet yesterday, and I have to cook my friend dinner soon. Everything else, I can’t remember off the cuff, but have it scribbled in my schedule...I call a week like this - a vomit inducing week. So busy and tired it makes me feel sick in the stomach.

But I love my lifestyle.. and though there are some phases where I look back and think.. OMG Where has my week gone????  There are also phases where I can kick back and have some idle down time all to myself. I think balance is important in life.

So here are some tips to combat Lifestyle Fatigue ( which I should try to follow) (and you could too!)

1. Get some sunshine. Weather permitting, enjoy the fresh air and sunshine.
2. Start an Exercise Routine. Rxercise helps relief stress and can actually give you that extra boost of energy!
3. Take a Power Nap. All it takes is 20 mins during the day to recharge
4. Plan Your Diary. Don’t double book, and don’t cram too many things close together. There’s always tomorrow.
5. Get your 6 to 8 hours of sleep.

I will try to take my own advice.. but I can’t help that I am still sat here with a mountain to email to clear after I write this post.  :(
Do you sometimes feel you don’t have time to stop and smell the roses either?

Monday, June 21, 2010

Are You A Potential Cheat?

Allow Me To Save You From Infidelity

Cheating is very common in relationships… so be mature about it and if you see it coming, then do something to stop it.

If you’re in a relationship… look out for these signs that could mean you’re going to be a cheat… fix it before you fall into Moral Carnage!

1. You feel the grass is greener on the other side.
You feel that you could’ve done better. You look at the options walking around you ( girls with nice asses.. or men with great shoulders… whatever your fancy) ... and you feel like you’ve settled for less than you deserve. If you’re feeling dissatisfied with what you have, chances are… when something seemingly better tempts you… Cheat Alert!

Holly Jean’s tip: If you want to be single, be single. Nothing wrong with that.
If you want to be in a relationship, then do so. If your desire to be with other partners overrides your happiness with the one you’re with, then maybe it’s time to let him/her go.

2. You need to prove that you “still got it”.
For some reason, having a great partner sometimes isn’t enough; we need to prove our self worth and prowess by flirting with and pulling others.

Holly Jean’s Tip: Seriously… chances are you won’t be happy when you lose your partner because you felt this incredible need to grab the ass of a babe/hunk just to feel better.

3. You’re a Trophy in a competition
To some people, you’re more attractive when you’re attached. If you have a GF , some women will jump at the opportunity to “show her up.” The same goes for men too. Most of the time, it’s just a game that ends once he or she has proven their point and stroked their egos. If you respond in even the slightest way, they will feel like they won.

Holly Jean’s Tip: Don’t be a fool. Show your partner that you can be trusted and you’re serious about your relationship ...and you can feel good about the fact that you rejected a hot one.

4. You’re taken for granted
This is a surefire way to encourage cheating. All the things you do in the relationship are now “expected.” Before you know it, you’re constantly at odds with your partner and getting along swimmingly with the “others”.

Holly Jean’s Tip: Tell your partner that he’s/she’s taking advantage of your generosity and is no longer appreciative of the things you do. Also make sure you’re not doing the same to your partner… usually with time… both partners seem to get too comfortable and take each other for granted.

5. He/She let themselves go.
If you’ve done the same, then you have no right to complain. But if you’ve maintained your appearance and your partner put on 20 pounds or aged a decade in the last year, then your eye may start to wander.

Holly Jean’s Tip: Do stuff together which would benefit the both of you… commit to working out together at the gym… or dedicate a special time each night before bed (or weekly) to pampering each others bodies with scrubs/ lotions/ oils/ massages…

6. Things are moving too fast (or too slow)
Do you feel pressured to commit too soon? Or are you emotionally ready for a mature relationship but your partner isn’t? Your needs are mismatched. You’re both going to feel a void.

Holly Jean’s Tip: Communicate. Be realistic with time frames. Compromise.

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If you see any of these signs in your relationship… then you don’t need to cheat on your partner--- you need to break up with them.

Monday, June 14, 2010

Flog The Fricker

Oliver Fricker, 32, a business consultant and expat in Singapore has been charged with vandalism of an MRT trrain.

Click Here to read my thoughts on his actions.

In this post here,I’d like to share my thoughts on whether or not he should be caned.

I think that no matter how much hoohah Netizens raise about how wrong it is to cane him, he’s not going to escape the flogging. Why? Let us look at a preceeding case.... (yes, I did take a couple of cross faculty modules at the Law School while at University… but only because all the other fun modules were already taken up)… In 1994, Michael Fay was caned for spraying paint on cars and stealing a few street signs.

Despite public outcry from all around the world and US officials’ request for leniency… the number of cane strokes in his sentence was reduced from six to four. (To me… 4 strokes is just as butt splitting as 6 strokes lah.) Michael Fay shot to worldwide fame because it was the first caning involving an American citizen.... and he was just a baby teenager, he was only 18.

How is it fair then, that we let this 32 year old business consultant, Oliver Fricker, off? Do we apply the law to some cases and not others? And do we choose whether or not to apply it based on someone’s colour? status? what?

Because to me, the only reason I can think of where it would make sense to deviate from the law would be circumstances around which the crime was committed. But is this Fricker guy insane? No. Did someone force him or trick him into doing it? No. I can’t see the circumstances where it would make sense that the law shouldn’t apply to Oliver Fricker. Can you?

On the other hand, Michael Fay had Attention Deficit Disorder, and he had just turned 18 (meaning just a few months prior, he would have been considered a minor and not be caned)… and still he was caned.

That being said… I do think that the law should be changed.. not for Oliver Fricker… but for the simple reason that canning is inhumane, and it isn’t an appropriate punishment for a non-violent crime such as vandalism.

But for now, that is the law… it doesn’t take a genius to know that Singapore has a no nonsense policy with regards to crime, the Michael Fay case is known the world over, Fricker knew what he was getting in to, he is unlikely to escape the cane and that is how this story will end.

Saturday, June 12, 2010

Relationship MineSweeper

Now that I’m single and dating again ( this year), I’ve been having to go back and read my own advice! The Relationship MineSweeper is my list of Red Flags I MUST NOT ignore when I start dating someone.

So here are my top ten red flags which I will put on my game board in order to keep away from the bomb. Keep away from heartache… ignore these red flags and I will step on the bomb… maybe not now...but.... la-di-dah.... I eventually will.

10. PHYSICAL BAGGAGE
This can be in terms of debts, disease or kids. OK… bit unfair red flag because then people who have managed their lives badly in the past or faced with less fortunate circumstances will forever be at a disadvantage.

9. PERPETUAL LATENESS
This is just disrespectful. You shouldn’t always have to be kept waiting. If someone constantly keeps you waiting it just shows that you’re not that important to him/her and that your time is dispensable.

8. GOING DUTCH
If the man suggests splitting the tab on the first date, it would be a major turn off. What does he gain from saving a few bucks off a date???? I don’t have expensive taste and I’m unlikely to drive him to the poor house.

If he accepts my offer of splitting the tab, it signals to me that he does not intend to have a second date. Which is fine because when I offer to split the tab, it usually means that I don’t intend to carry on and possibly pay for the second date. So I like to split it and therefore I don’t feel indebted.

7. MOTHER WORSHIPER
Yes, having respect for women and mothers is a virtue. But when it becomes obsessive, mother-worship is relationship death. No girl wants to be compared to a man’s mother. Mummy’s Boys are not attractive past the age of five.

6. DIRTY UNDERWEAR OR SOCKS
Please… if we’re only dating, then I don’t know you well enough to be able to see you in ugly or old underwear and still be attracted to you. When we’re a couple, old and unattractive underwear is actually tolerable (from experience) .... but poor hygiene is a no-no.

5. ADDICTIONS
Gambling? Smoking? Drinking? Drugs? How bad exactly is his addiction to something? but generally if he cannot control himself and does not have the will power, then I’d bolt.

4. ROVING EYES
This is just something I cannot tolerate. I’ve already blogged about it before. THE ROVING MALE EYE

3. RELIGION
I am open to dating someone of a different religion but don’t expect me to pick up another religion or belief. 

2. DIFFERENT IDEALS
Where do you want to be in 5 years… 10 years...? How important is marriage? Kids? Fidelity?Work? Money?

1. BAD SEX
I want a happy monogamous relationship and marriage. So i will not put up with bad sex. Sex is an important part of a relationship. This will be for the rest of my LIFE you know… I don’t think it’s shallow of me to reject someone because the sex is bad and not improving.

No matter how gorgeous and alluring the new stranger is, you have to quit when a red flag goes up. If you want to find the right person in life, you have to know not just what you want, but also what you don’t want. Because, even though a person may have many qualities which you want in a partner, if they also possess qualities you don’t want, be reminded that although you will be temporarily blinded and not see them, they will surface eventually. They don’t disappear, the good and bad points do not cancel each other out.

So single men and women out there, I encourage you to play the relationship mine sweeper. You will be on track to finding the right one. But first… do you know what your red flags are?

P/s- There’s a fun bed Jumping contest I’m running, check it out

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Monday, June 07, 2010

World Cup Babe (I Fake It!)

Nobody is taking me to South Africa for the World Cup.  I’m no football fan.. in fact, I still don’t really know all the rules of the game. But I love the excitement, cheering, betting, cursing, screaming, dressing up (in team colours) that go along with this event.

And besides.. I can fake ANYTHING. So every World Cup.. I will support a team and fake it like I’m a true blue football babe. Usually I support Portugal at the start (because of my Portuguese heritage of course).... until they are out… then I switch to some other winning team.

Well.. anyway… I will be stuck in SIngapore through this WOrld Cup Season.. boo hoo… I didn’t plan this well.
But I am pleased to say I have found one place where I wouldn’t mind chilling at to watch a few matches.

It’s a spanking brand new bar (soon to be named Middle Rock). Asmara Lifestyle Group has a little lifestyle cluster tucked away in the idyllic Bishan Park… the have spas, restaurants etc..and now they have a bar too.

(The exact address is Bishan Park II, 1382 Ang Mo Kio Ave 1, Singapore 569931 )

The place is cool. You can sit indoors under the canopy or outdoors and enjoy the breeze. It’s in natural settigns.... and there’s a huge rock stuck in the middle of the bar (they didn’t want to destroy natural landscape).. hence the name middle rock!

All the World Cup matches will be screened there. And there’s the World Cup Lucky Dip. Every $80 spent entitles you to a shot at guessing the winning team. At the end of each match, those who guessed correctly will stand a chance to win a Hoegaarden beer tower worth $75 in a lucky dip.

You can check out their facebook page here.

If you know of any other good chill out places to watch the World Cup, do let me know! 

Sunday, June 06, 2010

The Make Over Results

Here are the results of the Holly Jean Style Make Over held on the 22nd of May 2010!

Jasmine Teng



ClubCouture Outfit: Monochrome Chiffon Dress & Monochrome Bangle

Jasmine Lam



ClubCouture Outfit: Black Key Hole Dress & Silver Enamel Coated Bangle

Jasmine Yee



ClubCouture Outfit: Floral Crossback Dress & Pink Faux Leather Clutch (not seen in this pic)

Here’s a sneak peek at the Make Over Process and Studio Shoot.

Holly Jean Style Make-Over from wes on Vimeo.

Here’s what the girls had to say after the Make Over.

Who is the Winning Voter???
Jasmine Yee (Berry Romantic) has been picked as the contestant with the best make over. For those who voted for her in the contest at the NSportal Lifestyle site ... one of you has won the ettusais products to create her look!
Click Here to see if you won!

Big thanks to ettusais, ClubCouture & PinkElephantLabs for sponsoring this Make over

Ok that’s it folks! Hope you’ll be part of my next Holly Jean Style Make Over!